So I was reading comments on a friends blog and one person said they don't miss the dating life but did miss the carefree life. What does that mean? If your single do you have no cares? Someone needs to explain because I am getting frustrated with people thinking that being single is so easy and carefree and it makes you less of an adult. Is it just me being crazy. It might be, I've been a little sensitive about the subject lately.
Anyways, this last week I decided to try to be more proactive and went to the singles branch. I talked to the guy I had mentioned wanting to get to know in the flag football blog and as luck would have it, he is leaving for 4 months. He will come back but still, 4 months. Oh well, I tried and I mean really tried. I got all cute (I'm going to take a picture of the dress and shoes), was confident, I was ready.
I think I will start living by the following:
Life is too short to wake up with regrets. So love the people who treat you right. Forget about the one's who don't. Believe everything happens for a reason. If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands. If it changes your life, let it.
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The only way I can describe that kind of "carefree" comment is this way. When I was single I truly only had to worry about myself and my schedule. Of course I worried about my friends and stuff, but I was truly only accountable for myself. Then when I got married I had a husband to take care of and be sure our lives were going smoothely and now that I'm a mom I am truly accountable for little E now. Now all I do is stuff for for him and I rarely get time to do things that I want to do or even time alone. I never thought that my single time was "carefree" since I was constantly worried about finding Mr. Right and making sure I was on the right track with school and work. I guess once I became a mom I look back at those times as being "me time" and little more "free." I guess each time in our lives is hard in it's own special way and each season has it's ups and downs. I hope this makes sense. Just tell me to quit rambling if it doesn't.
Funny, I do not think that being single is care free. You have a lot of stresses, some similar to those of being married and some different like finding that spouse, if you are searching. I think both have challenges. For me now, my biggest concern is my kiddos and their needs. I can no longer just get out and go do things as I please, not only do I have to worry about money more I have to find someone I trust with my kids. Not that single people do not have to worry about finances but I always had a roof over my head or food to eat because I lived at home, now those responsibilities fall upon me... I can not run home because my kids depend on me and it is a little more expensive to eat because instead of buying for one person, I have to buy for five. Anyway, you get the point. Neither are easy, the stresses are both alike and different.
Being single is not easy or care free at all, you just have different problems/ concerns/ priorities, etc. I agree with the other comments, being single is not carefree but it is also a time when you are free to think of yourself. I never felt like this after I got married, but since I had Mae i really do look back as that time as more carefree. I could could make my own schedule. I didn't have to wait for Logan to come home and watch Mae before I could go to the gym and I didn't have to take a baby, diaper bag, binkie, toy, stroller, etc. with me when I just want to run to the grocery store! Anyway, being single is super hard and so is being married, I guess we should just enjoy wherever we are in life at the time.
I'd like to speak for single people, or just myself being single the same amount of time that you have. I don't think that I am less of an adult than married people my age, but I do have less "cares". I don't have to worry about anybody but myself right now, and that seems like enough to care about. But lets be honest, we don't have a family, husband, or house to "care" about right now. Personally I am glad that I don't have to worry about that right now. But I will say we do have more "cares" than those that were only single in their late teens and early twenties, most of them were still in the care and comfort of their parents' health insurance!
hey...I'm glad we are friends and as far as care free? i don't know but worry free is no one alive we all have responsibilties, goals, opportunities for growth and that means struggles for all of us. thank goodness for the gospel and for some perspective on this crazy life we are all doing our best at hope you have a god one!!
Sandra, I was much more worried and stressed as a single woman than I am as a married woman. You are the breadwinner, the homemaker, the everything in your life. No one to share the burden with. Career decisions? I hated them. Should I move? not move? Am I doing the right things so that I will find the right man IF I'm supposed to find him or am I wasting time and energy because I'm one of those women who won't get married in this life. Whoever thought being single was carefree got married young before they realized what dealing with life by yourself was like.
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