Wednesday, April 9, 2008

Breaking up isn’t even hard to do

You know how boys say girls are emotional and clingy. I think they are so confused. I even think they have it backwards. If I think hard enough I have only cried over 2 boys/men. I never know whether to call them boys or men. I guess they are all stuck somewhere in between. That is not the point. The point is that girls get the bad rep. but it isn’t just us.
For example, one of my goals for 2008 was to go out on a date. Not hard! So at the single’s New Years Eve dance I gave this guy my email address. I really shouldn’t have because he was a little aggressive and I spent about half the night trying to avoid him but it was an email address, not a phone number. Anyways, we emailed and it was fun. So I gave him my phone number. Phone conversations were good. So naturally we went out on a date. I had a decent time and he was pretty nice. There were things that definitely annoyed me but I decided I would go out with him again. I mean, he had made the effort to drive from Arkansas, he brought candy and flowers. And to be perfectly honest I haven’t kissed anyone for a while and thought I should get some practice just in case I had forgotten how. Before you start thinking ill of me, I didn’t ever kiss him!
Anyways, we continued to talk on the phone and I continued to get annoyed with what he would say. He had such different ideals than I did. And I think he, as most men, thought he was better than he was and that he deserved better than he did. I did have a few outside influences convincing me that I didn’t like him. But what did they know, they were guys. They had met him though and also thought he was annoying.
I had accepted a second date and a snow storm came and he couldn’t drive that far in it. So when we set another date I ended up really sick and had to cancel. This is where I think he gets crazy. He says okay and that we will have to reschedule. Anyways, while being sick I decide I don’t ever really want to go out with him again. I’m not interested and I can’t force myself to be. No one is that desperate. I tell him and that’s that. But I keep getting phone calls and I keep ignoring them. I go to Idaho and I’m still getting phone calls and messages. LET IT GO! Finally I open my email and there is an email from him. Great! So I open it and read it. I really should attach it but I won’t. This is part of the email.
“I hope your doing well.....if you are doing well and this is the end of things; then just say so. I am big boy and its not the first time I have been let down. I'll even make it easy for you; just reply with a blank email. When a person likes another they tend to overlook things and make excuses for them. The last thing I heard from you was that you had the flu; who knows YOU COULD HAVE THE BIRD FLU, and your dying from it. See where I am coming from!”
I emailed him back and told him he was right, I wasn’t interested. It was a little dramatic on his part, the email. I didn’t know if you were not dating that you had to end things. Did he think more about it than I did? Have I ever been the one calling and emailing and annoying? Have we all been that person?

4 comments:

Beke said...

They are all crazy...hey but since you guys broke up I guess he could be mine for the grabbin when I visit. Haha! O.k so I think I am funner than I really am

Sandra and Brent said...

I wouldn't call it breaking up since we never were going out! I think that is where the confusion was. I can give yoh his phone number. He has a job, house, etc. He is totally yours for the taking!

Candy Lee said...

I had a guy do that to me after the first date (peter)! He sent me this long email about how unthinkable it was for me to have already have made a decision on the "future of our relationship"! Some guys are a little over zealous!

Lindsay said...

Such a guy obviously has attachment/relationship/communication/growing up problems. Can you imagine being married to him and having him be so obsessive and demanding or wanting to have a DTR about every little thing you do? Yikes! Good call Sandra!