After talking to a friend on the phone who said he had no desire to get married, I was taken back. Who would not want to get married. That's just crazy. I thought about this a lot. While mowing the yard one day I decided to make a mental list of all the pros and cons so I could give them to him. I would prove to him that marriage is the ultimate goal. That it was desirable. So I thought a lot on why I would want to get married, besides the fact that it is an eternal principle. And crazily enough, I see my friends point a lot clearer now. My little "list" turned on me and I know see very few advantages to marriage.
I will list the advantages (besides the whole commandment thing):
1) I would have someone to father my children
2)Wouldn't have to worry who my roommate is.
Wow, that second one was a stretch. While my parents are still married and have been married for over 30 years, I do NOT want a marriage like theirs. And while I have brothers and sisters and friends who seem pretty happy being married, I just don't see why I would want this. Maybe we spend too much time dreaming about it as a kid so we automatically think we want it.
In the past, even 2 weeks ago, I would say security is a big reason. But I don't need someone else taking care of me. I worry a lot about my job security but I can go back to school and get another degree if I need to. Maybe people get married to get out of their parent's homes, I can move out anytime I want. I can always find another job. I can always change careers. I am in control of my future. And if I want stability, then I can have it. I don't need someone else's money.
So it is settled, I see no point in marriage. I have plenty of people in my life that fill any voids. And while I do want kids, I have my nieces and nephews. I have my friends kids. And if I ever feel a void in this area, I'll get a dog. I like this. I feel so refreshed.
I started a cleanse Sunday. I'm only eating whole foods, nothing processed or with preservatives. I'm cleansing. And maybe during the process I'll lose some weight. And if I do this time it's for me. Not because I feel like if I do whoever my current crush is will want to date me but I am doing it for ME.
And since I love to vacation I need to look better in my swimsuit. Sigh, life is HAPPY. All is right in the world today. Lie is good, life is happy, and life is beautiful and today I feel the same about me. I am good, I am happy, and I am beautiful.
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I need to get on doing a list.
Sex!
You forgot to mention LOVE! what about loving someone who loves you back? What about sharing your entire life with someone who shares their entire life with you? What about relying completely on someone who relies completely on you? What about sex? (pretty sure you can't fill that void without breaking commandments) I'm not saying that you are wrong, I'm saying that there are good points to marriage.
I'm glad that you are happy!
I think that if you tell yourself that you don't want something it will some how make it easier to deal with the fact that you don't have it. The things is that you do want it and you know it! But you should feel secure and now that you can take care of yourself. Have goals and make a great life surrounded by people who love you but it won't take away from the fact that it is okay to want something that you may never get and it is even More okay to be Happy about the possibility of getting it some day. I am glad that you are eating healthy. you always inspire me to take my goals up a notch. I am pretty sure I couldn't survive on no preservatives though. Love YOU!
I totally felt the way you did. I was like hmmm, the only reason I want to get married is because Heavenly Father told me that I need to. Other than that, I would have been totally happy being single the rest of my life! But then as Candice mentioned, I fell in love and all of the cons of marriage just melted away... Now they're back. You can have my husband!! j/k
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